About Your Success

Copyright 2004 by Patric Chan

What is success?

That’s such a big word.

Success has a different meaning to each individual.
But I’ll tell you what success is by my definition.

Some people say, rich people are successful. Not
necessarily. Money will only amplify your happiness. I
like to think success is about being happy. Happiness
is success.

What money does is make your happiness become
bigger or smaller. If you have a problem, it makes it
bigger. Example, if you have no money to pay your
rental, you have a problem. But if you have no money
for your house rental and can’t afford to pay your other
bills as well, your problems have just magnified.

Similarly, if you are happy driving a car and you have
more money to upgrade to a better one, you’ll be
happier right?

You see, money doesn’t create happiness. It only
makes your happiness bigger or smaller.

I’ve seen many rich people who are NOT ‘successful’.

Here’s how I’ll define success.

Success is about having the time of your life. Doing
what you want, wherever you want, anywhere you want
and with whoever you want.

Time is the most important asset to a human. Not
money. Why do we live? One thing for sure, is not to
make money. We make money because we have to.
We live to enjoy our life. With time, we can do that. If
you don’t live your life to enjoy it, you may be on the
wrong planet. :)

With time, I can be with my grandma. Other than time, I have another way to describe
success.

Success = Love.

Success is about how you are able to give and receive
unconditional love.

I’m not trying to sound like a goody talking all about love.
But that’s a fact how both of them are related to one another.

Success is love.

Let us dig deeper. Why do you think some people like
to drive BMW cars?

Comfort? Ok.

Prestige? Ok.

To be admired? Ok.

But unconsciously, he wants to feel good around other
people. For what? So that people will start to ‘love’
him at the end of the day.

Most of the things people do in life are just to get
love whether they realize it or not.

What’s success, I hear you ask me?

To give love to someone I love and receive
unconditional love. I know you might find money very
important. But one day when you come to a stage in
life, you’ll see that what you’ve been working so hard
for, may not be for money at all. Big house. Big cars.
That’s not success. That’s success in the eyes of others.

Success should be an accomplishment from within you.
You feel success. Success MUST be part of you.

When you achieve it, you’ll reach another stage of
life where you’ll see total abundance everywhere.

If success is so important, why does it seem so hard
to achieve for some people?

These are the 3 main factors that STOP people from
being successful.

1. Not prepared to invest their time.

Success is not easy. Just ask anybody who has been
successful. You’ll have to invest countless hours of
time to build success. Can you sacrifice your tv by
not watching it? Or stop drinking with friends?

Are you able to sit through reading self improvement
books to help you to be successful?

Can you spend time to work very hard in order to
achieve success?

2. Too difficult to part with money.

Are you willing to part with money to learn success?

Robert Kiyosaki once says this in his book, ‘The most
expensive advice is free advice.’ Many people seem to
find it very hard to part with their money to invest
in learning and discovering success.

What do I mean by investing in ‘success’?

Let’s get real. Useful and powerful tips and resources
on how to be successful normally don’t come free. Let’s
get really sincere and touch base on reality. If someone
spent years and thousands of money to learn about
success, is he willing to share it with you for free?
Maybe, if you are a really close friend of his. Most
likely, he won’t share it with you and I don’t blame
him. Why?

Because if everyone expects him to do that, do you
think he’ll have time to enjoy his success? And
secondly, he worked hard to be successful because he
wanted to be successful. If you want, you should
invest your own time. If you want a short cut, PAY him
for his time to teach you to be successful. He has
spent money to gain this knowledge of success.

You need to invest money in self-improvement books
and audios. Or attend seminars. If you have a
bigger budget, you can even hire a success coach
or consultant. If you invest in the correct tools and
strategies to be successful, most likely you’ll achieve
it quicker.

If you expect to learn without spending any money,
you can. But it will take you a longer period of time.
But, can you wait?

3. Putting your ego down.

Some people have really big heads. Big ego. They
know everything. These type of people think that they
already know everything and are not willing to hear
other people’s views and opinions.

Once you destroy your ego, you’ll have more room for
self improvement.

Why bother to have an ego and try to learn success all
by yourself when you can learn from others that have
already been there, done that.

The correct mindset

You know you need to have the correct mindset to be
successful. I’m not going to elaborate further on this
because most of the self improvement books you have
read already mention how to have a positive mindset
and so on to improve.

But I have to stress on an important mindset that you
MUST have to be successful. Some self-improvement
books missed this one. It’s the abundance mindset.
Once you are able to see everything in abundance,
you’ll be able to see life from a different perspective.
Abundance helps you to destroy negative thoughts like
greed and selfishness.

Whether you are going to achieve your dream to be
successful or not, it’s your choice. Ask yourself are
you willing to trade your time, effort and money to be
successful?

It’s not easy to convince you to be successful. It’s
easy to give you empty promises. But not today. Today
is the day you make up your mind to STEP UP and be
successful.

Like I say, it’s not easy. But I sure am glad I have
‘paid’ the price of success and I’m enjoying it now.
You can join me; all it takes is a decision and
actions to follow it.


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This article is written by Patric Chan, CEO of
eSuccessMastery.com and author of 'How To
Make More Money Easily'.